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The Flat White Or F*ck Off Principle

May 19, 2026

Key takeaways

  • Busyness is not business. Broad positioning fills your pipeline with wrong enquiries, wrong proposals and calls that go nowhere. Getting specific fixes that.
  • Repellent positioning is not niching. It's using exclusion as a signal of credibility. When you say who you're not for, the right person feels seen faster than any credential achieves.
  • People buy on emotion and justify with logic. Your ideal client chooses you the moment something makes them feel seen. A broad message can't do that.
  • Packaging becomes easy when messaging is clear. Stop writing bespoke proposals for every lead. When your positioning is precise, your offer becomes packageable, and your delivery becomes consistent.
  • Done beats perfect. Positioning sharpens through use. The feedback from real people is always faster than waiting until you feel ready.

 

 

 

In January this year, a pop-up coffee shop appeared at the Outernet at Tottenham Court Road tube station in London. One item on the menu. Flat white. No milk variations, no syrups, one size.

The name? Flat White Or F*ck Off.

They served coffee for one day. By the time they closed, they had 32,000 new Instagram followers. Four months later, marketing people are still citing it as one of the sharpest positioning moves they've seen.

Here's what I want you to notice. They grew because they were specific. They said no, loudly, before they said anything else. And that "no" is exactly why the right people found them.

This is a story about what happens when a business is so clear about who it's for that the right person feels it immediately. That principle is what I call repellent positioning. And it works whether you're selling coffee or a six-figure consulting engagement.

  

Why busyness costs you business

Most people miss this when they talk about marketing. Broad positioning doesn't just fail to attract the right clients. It actively attracts the wrong ones.

You get enquiries that go nowhere. Proposals that drain two days of work and never convert. Discovery calls where you know in the first five minutes it's a bad fit, and you take the meeting anyway because the pipeline feels light. That's busyness.

 

 

Because while you're busy servicing the wrong clients, writing different proposals for different leads who were never right, spending your Sunday evenings with a low hum of revenue anxiety, the right clients are somewhere else, wondering why nobody is speaking directly to them. Ok, maybe not in so many words, but you get the gist.

Here's the pattern I see with almost every technical B2B founder that comes to me. They've grown mostly through referrals. Good clients, strong retention. But they've hit a ceiling. And when I ask who they work with, I usually hear: "We work with businesses of all sizes across a range of industries."

I understand why. When you've built a business through referrals, you've had to say yes. Saying yes kept the lights on in the early years. Saying yes built the team. So many founders tell me they just say yes to everything and figure out how to make it work afterwards.

But here's what's also happened. Your message blurred.

So now when you try to market (website, LinkedIn, email, content, any of it) you're writing for a hypothetical person who doesn't quite exist. Someone sort of like your best clients, but not quite. And the person who is precisely the right fit scrolls past. Because nothing you wrote says: this is specifically for you.

  

What your referrals do that your marketing hasn't learned yet

Think about the best referral you ever received. Someone said something like: "Call her. She's brilliant with founder-led businesses who've hit a revenue ceiling and can't work out why their marketing isn't landing."

That sentence did the positioning for you. It named a person, named a problem, and made the right person think: " That sounds exactly like me."

Now look at your website. Your LinkedIn bio. The way you describe what you do when someone asks at a networking event. Does it do the same thing?

For most service businesses, not yet. And the gap between what your referrals say and what your marketing says is where leads fall through the cracks.

That gap is fixable. And the fix starts with a simple exercise I call the Referral Language Audit.

The Referral Language Audit

Write down exactly what your 3 best clients said to the person who referred them.

  • What problem were they describing?
  • How did they word it?
  • What made them feel like they needed to pick up the phone right now?

That language is your brief. It already exists. You just haven't put it in your marketing yet.

 

Why repellent positioning is not the same as niching down

People hear "get more specific", and they think: pick a niche. Pick an industry. Paint yourself into a corner. This is different.

Niching down is about narrowing your target market. Repellent positioning is about using the act of exclusion as a trust signal. The difference matters, and the results show up faster.

Rory Sutherland, one of the sharpest marketing thinkers around, talks about this constantly. Signals that cost you something are more credible than signals that cost you nothing.

A business that says "we work with companies of all sizes across all industries" is making a promise that costs nothing. No commitment, no exclusion, no skin in the game.

A business that says "we work with Fintechs with 20 to 60 staff who are ready to invest properly in their security infrastructure" is making a promise that comes at a cost. It excludes people. And that exclusion is exactly what makes the right person trust it.

People buy on emotion and justify with logic afterwards. Your ideal client chooses you the moment something makes them feel seen. Broad messaging produces broad feelings. Specific messaging produces recognition. Recognition is what converts.

 

How naming who you're not for builds instant credibility

If you work with B2B service businesses with 20 to 60 staff who are ready to invest properly in their IT infrastructure, say that. If you work with founder-led businesses between 500k and 2 million in revenue who've outgrown winging it, say that.

Here's a real example. Last year, one of my clients received a call from a construction company with a 500-million-euro turnover after a Google search. The company called my client first because the website was specific enough to feel credible and specific enough to make them think: this person understands our world. So they called the one that looked most like it got them.

That's how you need to show up.

A self-diagnostic for broad messaging

Ask yourself these five questions honestly.

  1. Could your website homepage describe any of your 3 closest competitors without changing much?
  2. Do you find yourself customising your intro every time someone asks what you do?
  3. Do you attract a wide range of enquiry types that you privately think are a bad fit?
  4. Are you writing a different proposal from scratch for every lead?
  5. Does your content get "this is great!" comments from people who never buy?

If you answered yes to 3 or more, it's a messaging problem. And that's actually useful to know, because messaging is fixable.

 

How speaking your ideal client's real problem converts better than any credential

 

Your best clients come to you because something is costing them. They need someone who has already seen it. Already solved it. Someone who says out loud what they've been thinking subconsciously for months.

The founders I work with often come to me because they're generating leads but converting the wrong ones. They come because they're taking clients who drain them. They know, even if they haven't said it out loud yet, that the ceiling they've hit is a messaging problem.

Say that specific thing. In your content, on your website, in how you talk about what you do. Say it like you've seen it before. Because you have.

And here's a bonus most people don't anticipate. When your positioning is specific, and your messaging is clear, your offers become packageable.

Right now, if your positioning is broad, you're probably writing a different proposal for every lead. Different scope, different deliverables, different pricing, different everything. It drains time and energy every time. And the end result is often worse, because you're reinventing things rather than refining them.

When you know exactly who you serve and exactly what problem you solve, clear packages replace the bespoke proposal cycle. Clients understand what they're buying. Delivery becomes consistent. You stop recreating from scratch.

Think about the flat white pop-up. It's so much easier to set up a smooth assembly line when everything is just a flat white. Add espresso, macchiato, mocha, different milks, syrups, sizes, and everything slows down. The team gives worse output to more people. Your business works the same way.

Specificity doesn't just attract better clients. It makes the whole operation easier to run.

 

The pipeline evidence that quality beats volume

An IT business in the UK with a full marketing team was generating hundreds of leads a month but converting almost none. Because the leads were wrong. Every variation of "we need IT help" from companies that couldn't afford what they actually sold.

5 or 6 quality leads with 4 conversions is a better business than 200 leads and 12 conversions. Revenue per hour of sales effort is a completely different equation. And the business with 5 leads tends to have calmer founders and a more consistent team.

If you've ever had a client you knew in the first call wasn't right for you and you took them anyway because the pipeline felt nearly empty, that's positioning telling you something. The nearly empty pipeline is the symptom. Broad messaging is the cause.

 

Two traps that keep businesses stuck on broad messaging

Flat White Or F*ck Off has an expletive in the name and people loved it. Because clarity reads as confidence, not aggression despite the swear word. You can be warm and direct at the same time. Strong positioning doesn't mean hard edges. It means honest ones.

 

 

You will wait forever.

Positioning sharpens through use. Say the specific thing now. See who responds. The feedback from real people is faster and more useful than any research or any amount of waiting.

And as I always say, traction has the word action in it.

Done is way better than perfect here.

 

Where to apply your repellent positioning first

Once you're clear on your positioning, here's where to put it immediately.

Your website header. The first sentence on your homepage is the highest-impact piece of copy you own. If it doesn't clearly say who you serve and what you solve, it's costing you every single week.

Your LinkedIn bio. This is often the first thing a warm referral checks before they decide to reach out. It should feel like it was written for exactly the kind of person you want to call you.

One piece of content per week. Pick one problem your ideal client has. Say the specific, honest thing about it. No hedging. No trying to make it appeal to everyone. Say what you've seen, what you know, and what you'd do about it.

Start there. Evaluate it, listen for feedback, check the data, and adjust course. Then move to the next level.

 


 

Frequently asked questions

What is repellent positioning?

It's a two-part messaging approach that uses exclusion as a credibility signal. First, name who you're not for. Then speak the specific problem your best clients have, in their own language.

Will saying who I'm not for lose me clients?

In practice, the opposite tends to happen. You stop spending time on leads who were never going to convert, and the quality of your inbound improves. The conversion rate on the right leads goes up quickly.

How do I find the language my best clients actually use?

Write down what your 3 best clients said to the person who referred them. What problem were they describing, and how did they word it? That's your brief.

Is repellent positioning the same as niching down?

Not quite. Niching is about narrowing your market. Repellent positioning is about using exclusion to build trust and recognition. The mechanism is different, and the results show up faster.

How specific is specific enough?

Specific enough that the right person reads your homepage and thinks: this was written for someone exactly like me. If your message could apply to anyone, it applies to no one.

Do I need to rewrite everything at once?

No. Start with your website header and your answer to "what do you do." Those two things, sharpened, will show you what shifts.

What if I work across a few different client types?

Start with your best one. The type that pays well, refers you, and for whom you do your best work. Build your positioning around that person first. The rest follows.

 


 

Related reading

If this resonated, these go hand in hand with it.

 


 

Resources mentioned

Alchemy by Rory Sutherland — Where Sutherland makes the case that signals which cost you something are more credible than signals that cost you nothing. Directly relevant to the repellent positioning principle in this piece.

Strategy Day with Deirdre — One full day to build your repellent positioning, clarify your message, and leave with a plan you can implement straight away.

 


 

Full transcript

Deirdre Martin (00:00)

In January this year, a pop-up coffee shop appeared in the outer net at Tottenham Court Road tube station in London. They had one item on the menu, flat white, with no variations on the milk, no syrups, and literally only one size available. The name of the pop-up?

Flat white or fuck off. So they literally serve coffee for one day and by the time they close they had 32,000 new Instagram followers and four months later there are still tons of marketing people who are citing it as one of the sharpest positioning moves they've ever seen. Now here's what I want you to notice about this and how it can help you grow your business. They grew because they were so super specific. They said no.

Loudly before they said anything else and that, no, is exactly why the right people found them.

If you're running a service business at any serious revenue level or aspirations to run it at a serious revenue level, you probably already know your best clients are not going to come when you cast a really wide net. And like me, I'm sure you've heard niche down so many times that it's become background noise or like a low running anxiety because it feels super risky to do it. So in this video, I'm taking you somewhere more specific.

You see, your positioning is doing one of two things right now. It's either filtering the right people in or it's letting everyone through and creating busyness. And busyness costs you business because you get wrong inquiries, wrong proposals, calls that go nowhere, that kind of busy. And I wanna show you how to fix that.

Here's the pattern I see with almost every technical B2B business founder that comes to me. They've grown mostly through referrals and word of mouth. They have some good clients and pretty strong retention rates, but they've hit a ceiling. And when I ask them, who do you work with? Like who's your target audience? I usually hear something along the lines of, we work with businesses of all sizes across a range of industries.

And I totally understand why. Like when you've built a business through referrals, you've had to say yes. Saying yes kept the lights on in the first few years. Heck, saying yes built your team. And so many founders tell me, I just say yes to everything and then figure out how to make it work afterwards. But here's what's also happened. Your message blurred. So now when you try to market, whether it's on your website, LinkedIn, Instagram, email,

content, any of it, you're writing for a hypothetical person who doesn't quite exist. Someone's sort of like your best clients, but not quite. And the person who is precisely the right fit, they scroll past because nothing you said, nothing you wrote says this is specifically for you.

Rory Sutherland, one of the sharpest marketing thinkers around, he amplified the flat white pop-up because it demonstrates something he talks about constantly. Signals that cost you something are more credible than signals that cost you nothing. So telling the market you're not for everyone actually builds credibility with the right person faster than any credential or we go the extra mile for our clients or we've been in business for 15 years kind of badge on your website.

You see, people buy from people and they buy based on emotion and then they later justify their purchase with logic. So your ideal client chooses you the moment something makes them feel seen. And you can only make someone really feel seen if you've decided exactly who it is that you're talking to. So specificity is the mechanism.

Broad messaging produces broad feelings. Specific messages produces recognition and recognition is what drives conversions.

I call this repellent positioning and it has two parts. Part one, name who you're not for specifically. Like if you work with B2B service businesses with 20 to 60 staff who are ready to invest properly in their IT infrastructure, say that. If you work with founder led businesses between 500K and 2 million in revenue who've outgrown winging it, say that. And here's an example from a client I worked with last year.

They got a call from a construction company with a 500 million euro turnover through a search. And they call my client first because the website was specific enough to feel credible, specific enough to make these people think this person understands our world. So they called the one that looked most like it got them. That's how you need to show up.

And part two is articulate the problem that your best clients actually have, but in their language. So your best clients come to you because something is costing them and they need someone who's already seen it or solved it before. And the founders I work with often come to me because they're generating leads, but converting the wrong ones. They come because they're taking clients who drain them.

Even if they haven't said it out loud yet, that the ceiling they've hit is as a result of a messaging problem. So say the specific thing in your content, on your website and how you talk about what you do. Say it like you've seen it before because you probably have. And I'll add here that when you're specific and your messaging is clear, it's so much easier to package what you sell rather than having to create

bespoke proposals that drain time and creation and delivery every single time. Total bonus. And like just picture the pop-up. It's easier to set up an assembly line with a smooth flow when everything is just a flat white rather than an espresso or a macchiato or a mocha or whatever different type of milk or syrup, you name it. And then when there's no variation, everything just flows easier.

and the referral was literally doing the positioning for them. Now compare that to an IT business in the UK with a full marketing team generating hundreds of leads a month and converting almost none of them because the leads are wrong. Every variation of we need IT help from companies that can't afford what they actually sell. So five or six quality leads with four conversions.

are a better business than 200 leads and 12 conversions because revenue per hour of a sales effort is a completely different equation. And here's the moment of recognition. If you've ever had a client who you knew in the first call that wasn't right for you and you took them anyway because the pipeline felt maybe a little empty, that's positioning actually telling you something. The nearly empty pipeline is the symptom.

and broad messaging tends to be the cause.

So one of the first traps I see with this is thinking that repellent positioning means being aggressive or alienating, like flat white or fuck off, yeah. Yes, for sure it has an expletive in the name and people loved it because clarity reads as confidence as opposed to aggression. Like you can be warm and direct at the same time.

Actually, do me a favour and leave me a comment below if you've ever held back from getting specific because you were worried about losing clients. I see this all the time genuinely and I want to know how many of you are sitting on a clearer message you haven't said yet.

Now the second trap is waiting until your positioning is perfect before you say anything publicly. You will wait forever. Positioning sharpens through use. So say the specific thing now. See who responds, what the response is. The feedback is going to be faster and way more useful than any AI research or guessing or waiting for perfection. And I always say traction has the word action in it. So take action.

Done is way better than perfect here.

If you want to work out what your repellent positioning actually looks like, who you're for, what problem you name, what language your best clients use, we could build that exact thing in a strategy day. One full day, we look at your current messaging, your best clients, where the gap is, and you leave with a positioning statement and a plan you can implement straight away. The link is below. If it's for you, you'll know.

The clearest thing you can say in your marketing is who you're not for. Because the moment you stop trying to be the flat white for everyone, you become unmistakably the flat white for someone.

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